Roots and Wings

There are only two lasting bequests that we can hope to give our children—roots and wings. Let’s explore the relationship between freedom and safety and how childhood conditioning sets us up for what Einstein called “the most important decision we make.”

When you think of home, what comes to mind? Many times comfort, safe haven and other positive words come to mind. For others however, home might not be such a positive experience. In the LGBTIA community, a lot of the time home isn’t a safe place and is a place that hinders who they are. 

As Holmes says, “A child needs confidence in his parents.” A home that offers unconditional love, belonging, and a sense of safety can empower children to grow into adults who trust Life. If you grew up in such a home, give thanks; not everyone has the blessing of being raised in a home where basic needs are met. 

The way we grow up in childhood sets us up for what we think about the world and what we can expect out of life. If we have a challenging childhood, we might expect the worst from life.  In Living the Science of Mind, Holmes says, “We are all carrying the negative experiences of our past into the future because we have not disconnected them from our minds. If we are creating a negative future it is because we have not changed our thoughts about it.” 

God doesn’t know evil and God doesn’t know sin. There is no such thing. What we call evil or hell is really the secondary effect of cause. People create the thoughts of evil and hell from low energy. We know that when we go to see somebody, we have to know the truth of them, which is that they are pure love, they are intelligence; we give all the attributes that you would give to God to them. We are able to treat from the place of love, which is what the idea of home offers. 

Consider the parable of the lost son, the story in the Bible. What we learned from this story is that it doesn’t matter how far we stray from our Heavenly Father or how much we squander the gifts he provides, he is always delighted when we turn back to him. His unconditional love is waiting for us to return home where he greets us with open arms.

Going home in the oneness tradition is not a geographical place. It’s about going to that upstairs consciousness – dropping all the negative thoughts and going to that higher level of consciousness where we go when we meditate. The place of home is the place we leave as a baby coming into the world, the joy you see from a dog when you come home; that is pure love, perfect from a place called home.  A baby who can’t talk yet with a big smile. It just hasn’t been altered yet. We can go there every day if we really want to. 

So what does home mean for you in the ideal sense? Think about how at-home you feel in your day-to-day life. Is your home a place where you feel safe and fully self-expressed? Whatever it is that comes to mind, know that we are able to go there in consciousness at any point.